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If you didn't know that this blog has changed homes...
It was taken down in the middle of the night a little over a month ago by Blogger
And just reinstated today

However, a very kindly Molly and her Sir have taken me in and given me a permanent home here, so please follow me over!  There will be no further posts here.

Thank you!!

Things I Had Never Done Before This Year

A few days ago a fellow blogger tweeted an idea about a blog prompt :)

This prompted for me a flashing before my eyes of what this past year has been.  These past twelve months have been an awakening for me...

A year ago this month, I spent the day with my sister and had that fateful conversation that started everything.  She's been in the lifestyle for many, many years and was only too happy to introduce me to it; she was the one who recommended FetLife to me.  I returned home that evening with renewed purpose, joined FetLife and started looking around.  A whole new world opened up for me that night as I started reading through group forums greedily.  Here were real people sharing the troubles and joys, the rewards and sacrifices of being in the lifestyle!

Up until this time I had only read fiction on BDSM and while that gave me some general pointers it was by no means a thorough introduction to what it meant.  Over the next several months I talked with people I met online and learned so much.

And experienced too.  I had never imagined actually meeting people and physically interacting; I had only ever meant to watch from the sidelines.  At my first meeting with someone over coffee I was so terrified I could barely speak.

I still felt I was really only meant to be an online observer.  My personal situation just too complicated, my professional life just too busy.  By this point I had made a few friends, one of whom has been my kindred spirit in kink.  We share each other's highs and lows and help each other process the journey (and egg each other on too!).  I'd be lost without my Rider :)

I started scening on my own, trying out ideas and sensations I'd never tried or done before (and I continue to do more, this is by no means an exhaustive list!):

• masturbating with toothpaste
• masturbating with Icy Hot
• 'figging'
• 'clothespegging'
• 'fire in the hole'
• candle wax and ice cube play
• wax painting
• melted marshmallow play
• mustard play
• erotic photography (I had always hated going in front of the camera in the past)

And bondage... a huge deal/fetish for me that led me straight to my first Real Life session with a real Dom.  I am interested in all forms of bondage but particularly shibari and it was that interest that got me beyond my nervousness and allowed me to agree to that session.  Though the aftermath was devastating it was an important point along the path and has allowed me to open myself to the idea of scening with another person in Real Time.

Yes, I've come a long way in a year and done many things I'd never thought I'd do.  And the journey continues...

WW & HNT: Dam It All!

No, no, the Dragon's not swearing!  That would be 'damn'... and she *may* be damned if she keeps this series going much longer! But here she is, back with another offering

See! of a DAM... it even says so!!

I found this place on a bike trip and stopped to explore... and eventually de-scale!

It was tricky as it was hardly isolated; there were other people walking on nearby paths and there was a huge hill nearby that I constantly had to scan as I worked, since someone could have had a bird's eye view of what I was doing quite easily!

Some shots of the mighty waters, for atmosphere :

the mighty waters, yes...

a better look at the force of the water... hmmm...

and a side view, where I finally nestled in ;)

It took some wrangling about to get the proper angle, with many furtive glances about!  I had gotten perhaps one shot I was happy with when I heard voices and suddenly a young boy was walking toward me to check out the scenery!  No idea how much he saw before I saw him!  I turned away from him and just kept shooting pics of the area studious ignoring the fact that he and a couple others were there for several minutes.  When they finally left, I tried one more time and got a shot I liked better :)

So this Dragon De-scaling makes notch #11 on the Scavenger Hunt :)

And the series is not over yet!  I just shot more pics this week... ;)

Go see who else is being wanton here

And if you miss Wanton Wednesday, there's always Half-Nekkid Thursday... you can find out all about that here

TMI Tuesday: Gone Hollywood

Gone Hollywood

1. If a screenwriter turned you into a character in a movie,
a. What stock Hollywood character would it be most like? For example: best friend, ditzy blonde, absent-minded professor, captain of industry, etc.
b. What actor/actress would play you?

What, stock? Run to a type?  Me??
I'm not sure that I could be pigeonholed that way...

But by all means let's make me a sexy, gorgeous thing...

"I'm not bad.  I'm just drawn that way..."

2. What genre of movie is your life most like? For example: romantic comedy, goofball comedy, spy, coming of age, action/adventure, sci-fi, etc

Oh, by all means a comedy!  Certainly not romantic... perhaps a bit goofball... definitely some action/adventure thrown in :)

3. What kind of scene in a movie would you like to play most? Why?
a. Argument
b. Love scene
c. Gun fight
d. High-speed car chase

An argument.  IRL I can’t argue my way out of a paper bag but give me a scripted scenario and I RULE… in fact, in most of my theatre productions I’ve been typecast as an intense, in-your-face character which is just hysterical considering how I am IRL, but there you go.

 note the abject fear... muhahahaha...

4. Have you ever looked around you and thought “this is like a scene from a movie”? What were the circumstances?

Oh, all the time...!
Because we all know that if you hang around me, there's rarely a dull moment! ;)

5. Have you ever looked at a character in a movie and said, “Hey, that could be me”? Who/what was the character?

Nope, sorry... can't say I've ever had that revelation...

Bonus: Have you ever been in pictures–Hollywood film, porno, homemade video, or other type of film? Tell us about it. …and is it on YouTube?

Yes… in the mid-80s several of us got together to film “Rambo’s Bad Day”… I appeared as a ditzy Neon Girl.  I have it about on DVD somewhere, it would be hysterical if it ever showed up on YouTube!!

I have been on YouTube as a result of various productions I’ve been in… several are still up.  I’d tell you where they are but then I’d have to kill you hahaha (no, really, I can’t, they’re tagged with my real name ~ but trust me, they’re AWESOME!!).

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Perhaps my most inspired performance (and with coincidently the largest audience) was a few months after Bis and I had separated (my first husband ~ background on that here and here for those who have not followed me since the beginning).  A group of us all went down to a science fiction convention in South Carolina that was quite popular in its day, usually attended by several hundred people from all over the country.  One of the events was a talent show, and I got a very evil idea... I went up on stage in skimpy lingerie and and acted like a *complete* airhead.  My 'talent' was to sing the alphabet song (and use sign language at the same time) and I made myself struggle to remember letters, etc.  In the midst of my performance I could hear a collective gasp go up from a section of the audience and a familiar voice shout, "OmiGod! She's doing K---- (name of the bimbo Bis left me for)!!!!!!!"


I apparently nailed the character of that vapid little bitch, to the roaring approval of my friends, and won an award for my convincing performance.  It was cathartic as hell and helped more than any therapy ever could. :)

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Sinful Sunday: Tying One On

I was playing with bondage this past week, re-tying the knots in my kirada to allow for the clit piercing and also to make the back more decorative...

I succeeded in one aim at least...

still need to re-work the crotch :p
But I have to wait for the rope impressions to fade from the last try... I had the kirada tied for more than 24 hours and some areas are still quite sensitive!





I was also playing with wrist and ankle binding using bungie cords which do a nice job and felt absolutely wonderful :)

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WW & HNT: Wantonly Sinful

I can't tell you how much I wanted to post this on Sinful Sunday... but in keeping with my Wednesday Dragon De-scaling series, I kept it to today :)

Time for a bit of a revelation... *ahem*  Now, as I state here, you do not ever want to engage me in a discussion of religion.  I am a happy heathen, if a spiritual one.  That being said, I do participate in organised religion, for the sake of the children.  I wanted them to have a broad-based religious education so that they could make their own informed decisions, as I have.

So this is how I ended up here... and felt free to walk in on a recent Sunday...

and climb up to the choir loft... and after a bit of fiddling about, pose...

As I was shooting, I could hear the choir director directly below me in the sanctuary.  She could have come up the stairs at any point...

But I got off scot-free... and notched another mark for the Scavenger Hunt...
In fact, this would be notch #10, which brings me to the Gold!!!
Dee updated the SH page  so I'm showing off my new badge (whee!! thank you Dee!!!! ) :)

And! I have not stopped there!  I recently (and at great risk) snapped pics for notch #11, which I will present next week :)

Go see who else is being wanton here

And if you miss Wanton Wednesday, there's always Half-Nekkid Thursday... you can find out all about that here

TMI Tuesday: WWKD?*

What would you do?

1. You encounter a good looking lost and frantic tourist looking for the airport. You:
A) Shrug your shoulders, feigning ignorance.
B) Find the shortest route on your smartphone and get him/her a cab.
C) Direct him/her to the nearest bus stop.
D) Get your car, pick up his/her luggage and speed to the airport.

That would depend on where I am and who I’m with.  Sounds cruel, but I grew up eating tourists for breakfast, so I’d likely tell them where to go and how to get there…

2. You’re taking a vacation alone. Your destination:
A) Beach resort — I just want to relax and de-stress.
B) A group tour — I don’t want to worry about the details.
C) Wherever the dart lands on the map.
D) Every country with a hostel — my backpack is my home.

Whilst the beach has a certain appeal… I really do want to go backpacking through Europe!!  I’m sure I could hit a beach or two on the way… ;)

3. Blackout! You can’t watch TV, so you light some candles and:
A) Dig up some batteries and listen to the radio.
B) Invite the neighbours, light a fire and sing camping songs all night.
C) Find a friend and play games that don’t require electricity. . . Like chess.
D) Drive to the next town — oh sweet Wi-Fi, I’ve found you!

Gee, this just happened recently to us with Hurricane Irene.  For the sake of the kids, I took 'em out of the house every evening and went where there was electricity until bedtime, then back home and put them to bed.  Had I been by myself… I would definitely find a friend to play games that don’t require electricity and we are NOT talking chess here!!!

4. The man/woman of your dreams has finally proposed. The relationship is perfect, they are everything you’ve ever dreamed of and ever wanted. They are also a multi-millionaire and want you to sign a prenuptial agreement. Which would you do?
A) Sign it
B) Just not get married

Sign it, and have him counter-sign one to stay away from MY assets in case of divorce.  Keep ‘em guessing, I say…

5. If you were going to marry an inanimate object, what would you marry?
Note: A woman has married the Eiffel Tower and another has married the Golden Gate Bridge. Read about it HERE

A rock.  Preferably a rock that resembled human form.  Oh wait! I could marry one of those sparkly vampires, they’re made of stone, yes?  C’mere, Edward!!

Bonus: You’ve just inherited a manufacturing plant that specializes in plastics. What are you going to make?

Duuhhh… sex toys!!!! What else?!

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 *What Would Kazi Do?

And now Kazi directs you to go seek out others who are providing TMI about these questions... go HERE.  NOW!

Sinful Sunday: In Session

On Sinful Sunday, it's all about the image :)

Some of the hottest ones are taken in session

when you don't have full control of your faculties :)

click through for a (slightly) more lucid moment

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Pardon me... do you have any Grey Poupon?

Now that I'm fully healed, it's time to get back to the fun! I will soon be scening in RT with a Dom, but in the meantime I need to get back up to speed and see what the ol' bod can do with re-worked parts ;)

Of course, I've been keeping company with erotica all this time (some of my favourite authors put out some excellent works recently that I'm still going through) but it was time to get more active and that means sensation play!! Heaven knows when I'll get the house to myself again and I didn't want to wait for that, so it's been clandestine sessions in the bedroom after the kids have been asleep a good while, knowing Taz doesn't come upstairs anymore before 0330...

Last week was the Marshmallow Fluff, which I do plan to do more of when I'm able to scene with it... being that it's a bit too messy for bed/closet use and I want to try melting things next time.  This time round I was inspired by a post of DDD's and decided to take on mustard in active play.  I didn't go to Big Lots... instead I hit a grocery store near one of my programs and picked up four different types of mustard

I wasn't paying attention which queue I got into for checkout other than making sure it was an express queue... imagine my surprise when I got up to the clerk and it was someone I knew from the theatre!!  I'm sure she wondered a bit at my purchases, though I'm sure her mind didn't wander in that direction... *blush*

I knew I was going to need to spread this over four nights as each of these would generate a lasting sensation and I wanted to experience the effect of each separately.  I debated going with a timer and tripod but in the end just kept the camera to hand (which made things interesting once I got into the session, had to remember to keep one hand clear to operate the camera, which turned out to be my nondominant hand).

For the first night, I went with the all-American picnic favourite

I took my time with it, doing some nipple play first.  The nips respond to touch of course, but there was really no effect from the mustard.

Trying down lower... again the clit piercing responds nicely to touch, but there was no appreciable effect from the mustard, not even a sting.  Finally, I put Golden Boy to work... and it was a good session... but it wasn't the mustard that got me there.  Sorry, French's... you just don't cut the mustard for sensation play ;)

The second night I decided to go for some spicy goodness :)

Again nips and clit were largely unaffected, though it was fun to play with something a little grittier in texture and I did respond to that (note to self: more texture play in the future!).  When it came time to play with Golden Boy, there was a pleasant warmth associated with our play that stayed through the night and into the next day.  Now we were getting somewhere!

The third night, it was time to pull out all the stops ;)

I love horseradish generally as a condiment and when I saw it paired with mustard I just couldn't resist! and I was not disappointed... though the nips didn't feel anything special the clit sure did! and I knew I'd found a winner :)

Golden Boy wears it well, doesn't he?

Introducing the mustard inside brought on a near-immediate swelling sensation similar to my fire-in-the-hole experience  and the orgasm it generated was blazingly intense.  Even better, the spicy feeling again lasted into the next day as a pleasant reminder... this will be a definite repeater.  The only downside was that the room smelled of horseradish the next day, though Taz never said anything...

Last night was the Grey Poupon, which of course brought up memories of the old commercial :)

Again, the nips enjoyed the play, even if not affected by the particular substance used

The clit stung a bit, which for some reason I wasn't expecting... I honestly didn't think I'd get as big a reaction as I had from the horseradish mustard the previous day.  I was pleasantly surprised on taking on the bedecked Golden Boy to discover that the effect was just as intense!  The only disappointment of the night was that the batteries failed for the bullet attachment, so orgasm had to be achieved without vibration.  It wasn't difficult... ;)

All in all, a very fun and fulfilling week, if a little messy!! A bath towel took care of the worst of it, my sheets are none the worse for wear.  I do have other types of mustard already in the fridge, but for now I'm going to move on and try something different for next week... (*peers into toy bag for what might be to hand*)...

WW & HNT: The Nurse is IN

...my office, that is.

Yes, I went there... had hoped to be the first to open that category but Lusting Lola beat me to it last week!  No matter, it was still fun to do, and I swear next week I will be the only one in my category (though it's already on the Scavenger Hunt list)!

Now, this was daring for a couple of reasons.  First, the CEO of the agency I work for has his office just a couple doors down from mine and he was also very much "IN" that day.  Secondly, I share my office with another person, as you can see...

...and whilst she doesn't usually work from there on Fridays (the day I did this), she is IN the building and could potentially come by for something.  We do have a door that shuts (and locks!) but she never knocks before entering, she just barges in.

So I set up with some trepidation but also growing excitement.  I could hear voices in the hallway from time to time, which just added to that 'sense of imminent danger.'

After a few shots, I started to relax into it...

And by the end, I was thinking this was actually a great way to do business ;)

Another successful Dragon De-scaling!! I do believe this qualifies me for point #9 in the Scavenger Hunt

See who else is being wanton here

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TMI Tuesday: Dating

DATING

1. You’re on a speed date. You’ve got 7 minutes with the potential partner. You already know the person’s name. What are the first three questions you would ask?

The questions wouldn’t necessarily be in this order, but I would ask what the person did for a living, what were they ‘into’ (ie., kink), and whether they cared that I’m married.

2. Have you ever participated in speed dating? Did you get a regular date/second date out of it?

Nope, not ever!  With the amount of time it takes me to ‘warm up’ to someone enough to carry on a conversation, it just wouldn’t even be practical to try to put me on a timer.

3. Do you participate in online dating? How many dates have you had as a result of online dating sites/matches?

I don’t call it that, but let’s say for the sake of argument that FetLife qualifies, since that’s how I meet the majority of people ‘in the lifestyle.’  I have met 4 people so far that have made it to the ‘let’s meet for coffee’ status (I’m meeting #4 this week in fact).  Of these, two made it to a second meeting, both of which ended up being scene sessions (as in BDSM). Neither of those progressed further.

4. You are attracted to:
a. Who people are?
b. What people have?
c. What they can do?

Who people are, as in what they’re about, their interests, et cetera, and what they can do, as in what are their strengths and what are they ‘into’ is the draw for me.

5. What “little red flag” will cause you to end a date or immediately decide this person isn’t for you?

First contact usually says a lot… if the person is rude, arrogant, unable to put together a coherent English sentence or just plain creepy at first blush, the message goes directly to trash bin.  If they continue to push at hard limits even before we meet, or I start to feel uncomfortable with continuing contact, it’s over.  I will not meet with someone in person until I’m ready to do so, though I’ll happily chat in cyber (with the caveat no real name, no cam, no exceptions).

6. What do you feel you need to sacrifice or have sacrificed to be a part of a relationship?

In the past, everything!!  Now, I don’t feel the need to sacrifice anything.

7. If you cooked for your date, what would you cook?

Depends on what they would like.  I wouldn’t want to make something the person would hate… I get that enough from the kids!!!

8. At the end of a first date, how would you kiss your date?
a. Press your lips against theirs
b. Gentle kiss on the cheek
c. Lots o’ tongue, like you’re on a tonsil exploration
d. I don’t kiss on the first date

See my reasoning on that here… I really have not changed much since writing that; if anything the boundaries have become more defined.

Bonus:  You just put up a profile on a dating site. You must describe yourself in 10 words or less. What are your 10 words?

Do acronyms count? LOL

MWBF sub GSOH seeking D/s, must be friends first.

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Purity Test

Catharine did this and I became curious... always a dangerous thing! ;)

Is anyone surprised at the results?

Your Ultimate Purity Test 2.0 Score Is...
	Your Score:	Average For All Users	Average For All Bisexual Females (3899 total)
Dating	53.85%	34.58%	24.39%	Flirts mildly, then runs away
Self-Lovin'	46.97%	60.67%	51.17%	When I think about you - or anyone - I touch myself
Shamelessness	70.97%	77.3%	64.36%	It takes a couple of drinks
Sex Drive	85.71%	75.04%	62.79%	The Pope is envious
Straightness	48.15%	39.43%	22.57%	Experienced, but with room to grow
Gayness	83.33%	77.52%	46.11%	Repressed, are we?
Dominant	100.00%	86.45%	77.79%	Afraid to cross at "Don't Walk" signs
Submissive	66.67%	86.7%	73.67%	Bound and gagged a few times
Fucking Sick	77.55%	89.68%	81.08%	Refreshingly normal
Total Score	71.29%	73.58%	60.27%
Take The Ultimate Purity Test 2.0 and see how you match up! (By The Ferrett)

Sinful Sunday: No Dirty Laundry Here!

On Sinful Sunday, it's all about the image :)

Even rope and lace need to get clean after a hard session :)

Go see who else is being sinful here