Kink Meme Part the Second

Yep, it's Monday and shortly I'm going to be flying on coffee rather than on performance highs... such is the life of a busy professional.  I'm really really missing being able to engage in sensation play other than rather limited, quick things I try on the fly.  However, I'm given to understand I may have the house to myself towards the end of the month, so I'm hanging on for that!!

What are your views on the ethics of kink?

What goes on between consenting adults is their own business and they should not be penalised for it so long as it does not involve minors, those who cannot give consent, nor unwarranted trauma to the participants (by that latter qualification I mean any activity that is not consented to by the receiver and causes lasting damage).  Safe, Sane, and Consensual are very big with me; I will not go into a situation where I do not have a significant level of trust of the other party(ies) involved.

Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had. If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.

I have a very active sense of humour and use a lot of puns and double entendres… the world of kink is very ripe for that.  Running gags are big with me; once I’ve established a joke or a line with someone I’ll continue to subtly bring it up from time to time in a variety of contexts.  My theatre comrades almost invariably make excellent targets… for instance, I found that one of my directors would get absolutely squicked out when I licked my lips in her direction, so I continue to find instances where she is trapped and cannot look away as I lasciviously lick my lips at her… yes, I am evil and merciless!!

Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you? Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?
It makes me sit up and pay attention, it heightens my response, it provides a release I never got by ‘regular means’ or through vanilla sexual intercourse… it scratches certain itches I wasn’t tuned into previously, if that makes any sense.

How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?
As much as you can imagine something, there’s something about it being right in front of you with the atmosphere, sensations, and experience tangible that brings it home.  I have a very vivid imagination, but it still does not compare to the (very limited) real experiences I have had.

Post a BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.
Suspension bondage.  That’s something that’s really rather hard to do to oneself safely though.

What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?
Having to be so circumspect and discreet about it.  My family (with the notable exception of my sister, who introduced me to FetLife!) has no idea what I do and to what extent.

What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?

We are not defined by our sexual practices/proclivities… they are simply an aspect of who we are.  I am no danger to others simply because I am bisexual or enjoy certain activities.
 

Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they?
 Guys who assume that because a girl lists herself as submissive, she’s fair game to immediately ‘dominate’ (demand things, show disrespect/no regard for her person, assume a relationship or unwarranted familiarity).

Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life? If so, what are they?

 I’ve discovered things about myself I never knew, met some wonderful people, and have some good friends as a result.


Talk about something within kink/BDSM that you’re curious about/don’t understand.
I understand the physiology behind the pain-pleasure response and have experienced aspects of it, but know I still have a ways to go in fully grokking it.  It seems counter-intuitive to me to be able to climax with something that is causing great pain or discomfort to my person.  

More tomorrow...