Caveat emptor

Since my readership is apparently far wider than those actually brave enough (foolish enough?) to publicly subscribe, I feel the need to make myself very plain here.

I am a solo experimenter, using this blog to chronicle my journey in this lifestyle.  It appears to be a given that I am a full-time student in the School of Hard Knocks, but so be it; any pain that comes from this journey is welcome as a lesson learnt.  It should be my pain, though... no one else’s.  I blog on my experiences, impressions, and landmarks on the journey; I do not mention names or places.  I may link to another blog but only if I have been mentioned there first.  I may describe certain activities but they are heavily edited to reflect only my impressions.  I may provide pictures, but again no reference points.  I have too much at stake in my other life, as do those with whom I choose to interact; discretion is everything.

Let me repeat: I am solo, unowned, and I do not see that changing any time in the near future.  I am happy to talk, ask questions, and explore… but my trust of relationship dynamics and faith in human nature are both fairly close to naught.  Yes, I have some irons in the fire, but the flame is by needs kept low.  I warm up only slowly; if any of those with whom I interact have a problem with that it is their own.  Feel free to move on and don’t let the door slap you on the arse on the way out…

I identify as submissive, but that does not mean carte blanche any more than the fact that I am bisexual does.  It is meant for the right dynamic only and I am still very much on the fence about what that means for me.  My guard is up and I am learning as I go… it’s a process.  I refer you to the previous paragraph; rinse and repeat.

Online relationships are only somewhat easier than real time, I am finding, and it is time for me to speak on my limits there too.  No real name, no direct physical address.  No cam.  No exceptions.  I have several different Facebook accounts (my life is that compartmentalised, yes) and whilst I have added a couple of online contacts to one of them the account is highly secured.  I reserve the right to safeword.  I have deleted and blocked people in the past who have tried to force past my objections and will not hesitate to do so again.  I refer you to the two previous paragraphs…

Bottom line? this is meant to be an adventure.  It is meant to be fun, to bring smiles, to learn and to grow.  When it stops being any of that, it is no longer worth doing.  I am not in this for the cheap shot, the quick gratification, or to be anything less than who I am.  Worth getting to know, I think, but caveat emptor… not an easy commitment.