Ridin' Solo

“Play ball!”

w00t!  It’s officially Spring now, so I can say it! …managed to get through the entire gnarly Winter unscathed!!  Usually by now I’ve had at least one significant respiratory infection and spent time on crutches.  So, see… kink must be good for me!!

Recently, my ‘alone’ time was called into question.  Hmmmm… let’s see… it’s been two years, three months, thirteen days and twenty-odd hours since I last had relations with another real person in the same room, not that I’m counting or anything…! and since I’ve actually had relations with that someone where I got off?? gee, I ran out of fingers… ¬¬

My point is that I am a solo act, have been and likely will be for the foreseeable future.  It is not in my nature to ‘run out there’ looking for a quick fix, and as a busy professional in my ‘other’ life I cannot seem to work my schedule to meet anyone.  The physical outlet has to go somewhere… and while a good deal of energy can be appropriately channelled into my music and theatre, I do spend a fair amount of time murdering kittens and dabbling in sensation play when the opportunity presents itself.  And as for the need for an intimate connection?  <quiet grin>

Rather than cry about it or crawl under a rock, I blog, share ideas and look for new things to try on my own.  And I laugh at myself often, because laughing’s healthy.

Therefore, with tongue firmly in cheek, I present the pros and cons to ridin’ solo…

Pros:

1.  When the ‘golden opportunity’ opens itself up for play, I don’t have to worry about coordinating with anyone else’s schedule… I’m nearly always ready!

2.    Hell, let’s face it… I’m just always ready!

3.    And I don’t stand myself up…

4.    I’m willing to do things to myself that I would not trust others to do to me

5.    I don’t have to take myself out for coffee first

6.    No worries about having to generate small talk or of saying the wrong thing

7.    No hurt feelings!

8.    I don’t have to care what I look like in critical moments of play

9.    No embarrassing moments

Cons:

1.   There are things I would like to try that are difficult, if not impossible, to do alone

2.    No ‘connection’ to anyone so can’t truly experience the D/s dynamic or go into ‘subspace’

3.    I’m told that the experience (and the sex) is more intense when experienced with another person in the room with you

So there you have it… no anger, no angst… just a quiet acceptance of ‘what is’ and a moving forward…