Intro to Kink 101

"We're the pleasures of the night-time that fade at dawn,

selling treasures of the night-time 'til night is gone.

And then when the party's over, everybody's gone away,

we stare at an empty day - what's there to do or say?

Nighttime is where we live,

night is when we give everything we have to give.

Most lovers can rejoice, we don't have a choice,

we just know we have to give.

That's why the day can never be bright

for the girls of the night..."

"Girls of the Night" - Jekyll & Hyde

I am Nellie to my friend J's Lucy, such sultry wenches!... we always have a kick performing this song and will be doing so again publicly in three weeks, looking forward to it :)

My first introduction to kink was not far from the girls of the night one summer in Boston...

I had determined that I was not going to return home after my first year at college, so as soon as the semester ended I got myself a job at Fernald State School (now the Fernald Developmental Centre, due to close Any Day Now... really...) and moved into a co-op apartment in Brighton with several other young people.  The unit I was working in was actually housed up at the Metropolitan State (Mental) Hospital, a very spooky place at the time, as my unit's building was being renovated.

I am not sure what it is about work with the developmentally disabled that attracts those of the LGBT persuasion, but we are Legion... and nearly to a (wo)man, seem ideally suited to the work with a special compassion and a fine sense of advocacy.  I had had no exposure to the LGBT community growing up, and being at an all-girls Catholic college had not furthered my education on that front.

So, I met Danny and George shortly after I started working for Fernald.  George was an older guy... tall, skinny transvestite (okay, now we say cross-dresser, I'm only saying how he referred to himself) complete with makeup; Danny was a few years older than me, gay and quite open about it.  After they finished laughing at my accent, they took me under their collective wing and taught me all kinds of things.

Now, I'm sure that had I not been a virgin, my "education" would have gone quite differently (in that they likely would have hooked me up with someone who would have taught me about BDSM first-hand).  Being that I was in fact still of intact hymen, they were very concerned about maintaining my virtue and decided that it would just be fun to shock me about things.  I still remember Danny telling me in all seriousness that he could be a better woman than I could ever be...

I never worried when I went out with them late at night after work because I knew they weren't interested in me and would protect me from vultures, so we would go out into Boston and through the Red Light District to the Paramount theatre to see the Rocky Horror Picture Show, where Danny was part of the floor show dancers on certain nights during the week.  This was in the heyday of the participation of this cult classic, an experience not to be missed! And quite eye-opening to a neophyte of the scene...

Danny and George were both heavily into the BDSM lifestyle, and the impression they gave me of it was that it was all whips and chains and torture.  That was later reinforced when my sister went to college at Georgetown University, entered the lifestyle, and went straight for the the S/M aspect (and yet accused me of corrupting her! LOL).  It is likely just as well that my education in the matter of kink came later... a few years after that Summer of Enlightenment the AIDS epidemic hit the US in force and I might have been caught in that maelstrom.

How did I finally discover the true nature of kink, you may ask?  Well, I'm actually still very much on the learning curve here, but I got an idea that it wasn't all about the torture when I started reading erotic fiction a couple of years ago when the sexual well ran dry... and the rest is legend... ;)

(click on the pic to see hahaha)